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Tuesday, May 10th, 2011
How can she deal with her mom?
How can Stacy deal with her mom.
Today Stacy (in her 50’s) and her mom (in her 80’s) were going to spend the day together. Her mother was driving today instead of Stacy.
Stacy: “Mom on the way to the places we are going let’s stop at the 99 cent store. Yesterday the guy who works there said new things are coming in”
Mom: “Ok, then changed her mind and said. “No I am not going. I am not sitting in the car while you run in”
Stacy: “It will be just for five minutes and I will be right out”
Mom: “No, I don’t have to do what you want, Don’t ruin my day. You are getting obsessive with the 99 cent store. It isn’t that have nothing to wear. If you want I will take you home and you can go”
Stacy: “Ok take me home. I don’t need this. It would have taken five minutes and then we would have had a great day but instead you have to pick a fight.”
Stacy’s mom did take her home. Stacy went her way and her mom went on her own as well.
Stacy should remember that her mother is in her 80’s and God only knows what is going on in her head throughout the day. With someone that age and, keeping in mind that Stacy only has a limited number of “shopping days” left with her mother, Stacy should go out of her way to bend to her mother’s wishes. By now, 50ish, Stacy should have learned that her mother is selfish and if she doesn’t get her way will pick a fight. Stacy’s mom doesn’t really care about ruining the day because when she gets home and makes a snack, by the time she turns on the TV she has forgotten all about it because she’s too busy trying to figure out the “thing” on Wheel of Fortune. Stacy should try practicing seeing her mother as a fragile individual that should be treated with kid gloves. Try agreeing with everything she says no matter how absurd. This will be rather difficult at first, but in time you will come to realize that you can take anything she says and turn it around by a series of seemingly innocent questions. This method accomplishes two things. It makes mother feel good because she believes that she is correct and everyone is in agreement and it makes her feel that her daughter is listening to what she is saying and showing her respect….finally!!! Trust me, this works, old people have no idea what placating is and as long as you can keep a straight face you win. My parents are both in their 80’s and this was the only way I was able to continue being around them. Sorry, to all the seniors who might read this, but I think it’s better than fighting.
Stacy David drives 1977 Bandit Pontiac Trans Am Burt Reynolds Ed. on GearZ
